Oh hi, I'm human dynamics coach Matthew Hussey. You may recognise me from The Today Show, or my New York Times bestselling book "Get The Guy".
... Bestselling.
Today I wanna talk about a secret something you ladies can give a man to drive him wild, but because of archaic social taboos, most women tend not to go there. Of course, I'm talking about "brainal".
Brainal: The act of penetrating deep subjects of intellectual curiosity with a partner, resulting in mental stimulation, and often physical and emotional attraction.
See the truth is, intelligence is sexy. I'll show you.
Now Jane thinks Charlie is sorta douchey. Kinda cute, but sorta douchey. And right now he's talking about his band.
- Sasha wants me to play bass, but Pat's like "you're better at the accordion", and Chad, like, agrees with him. But like, each person wants to have their opinion because it's like a group band it's not just my band. It's not Charlie's band. Though we're toying with the name "Charlie's band" so there's weird dynamics...
- Go deeper Chuck... much deeper.
- I never wanna be afraid to try new things. You know, I heard once that life begins where your comfort zone ends. So maybe the bass could be a foundation for my whole life... I mean, no pun intended."
Doesn't that feel better?
Jane's just been brainally stimulated, and she liked it.
Likewise, men who are truly comfortable in their masculinity, enjoy receiving brainal as well.
It's true, it's science.
Now, I know what you're thinking. I don't want the stigma of being 'that girl' renowned for giving great brainal. This is called the "Margaret Thatcher Paradox."
This occurs for Jane when she talks a bit too much about corporate finance.
- Thirty three percent equity at that price indicates a huge valuation, but based on nothing empirical, so suddenly it's like Im discounting cash flow based on an arbitrary MPV.
- Oh totally. That's what, that's, er...
Ouch, Charlie. That's dry brainal, and it really hurts. And it's still hurting.
Brainal isn't just about going deep. It's about opening up and connecting. There's got to be a back and forth.
Remember Jane, brainal should be sacred, it should go both ways.
- At work, I weigh value against risk. But maybe you're right, maybe the value is the risk. The ability to create new directions and push comfort zones. And play the f**k out of that bass.
- I love you.
Now that's full-on brainal.
Certain risks apply, so be sure your partner properly preps for brainal. Start small, with weather and traffic talk, and slowly ease into brainal. Remember to relax and to avoid controversial topics like politics and religion when starting out brainal. Tense brainal can quickly escalate into a messy situation.
Now we like to have a few laughs here at Get The Guy, but I hope you've enjoyed this video on multiple levels. We've certainly enjoyed having you. In fact, it kinds of feels like... we just had brainal.
