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Hey, Matt Boggs here with Project Everlasting and Cracking the Man Code.
Congratulations. Welcome back! This is video number three of the Man Scan. Again this is a powerful strategy for how to identify what your man wants and where he thinks the relationship is going. Now, let's do a quick review.
Step number one is: come from love abundance.
Step number two is: pre-frame the conversation and invite him to be honest.
Now, in the last video...in where we left off...I was telling you a story about a buddy of mine and a girl he had been dating for a couple of weeks to a month. She spent the night. The next day, he gets up and goes and works out. She stays back and starts cleaning the apartment. When he came back, she pre-framed the conversation, right, asked him if now was a good time to talk and then invited him to be honest because she had found a long black hair in his bed and was a-...and wanted to know if he was dating other women since the time they had started dating.
Well, he was honest with her and he said, "Yes, I have been dating other women."
Now, to give you some insight, this is a great guy.
He's successful, he's attractive, he's funny, he's charming and she really likes this guy and she actually wants the relationship to progress. But more than she wants that particular relationship to progress, she wants a certain quality of relationship. She wants to be in a deep, meaningful, profound, loving, monogamous relationship.
So how she responded to what he said was key in the outcome of that particular conversation and that brings us to step number three.
Step number three is to share your vision with him. Let him know what it is that you want. Paint him a picture of your vision and then invite him to share his vision with you. What is it that he really wants in the relationship, moving forward, again making it okay for him to tell you his truth.
It's extremely powerful to paint a vision for someone else of the kind of life you're creating.
So, in this particular scenario, she said, "You know, I'm sorry to hear that...that...that you are dating other people, but you know what? Thank you for telling me. Thank you for being honest with me. I really appreciate that."
Oh my gosh, a world of difference from every other woman he had ever dated, who gets mad, who gets upset, who gets...you know...she ultimately took responsibility. She said, "You know what? I realize that I've let this relationship progress beyond where I would normally let it progress without actually identifying the state of the relationship, because I really like you. But you know what? I want to know what it is that you really want. What I would love to have is a relationship where we have fun together, we're joking and we grow together. We're helping each other become the best versions of ourselves that we can be and it's...and it's adventurous, and we have great sex together, and...and it is profound and is deep and it's monogamous. And ultimately, whether it's with you or with not you, that's cool, but that's what I'm creating in my life. And if it's not with you, then that's okay. I know that I'll create that with some other guy. But what I'm really interested in is; what do you want? You know, best case scenario, if you could have it any way you wanted, what do you want in your life?"
What a powerful question. I guarantee you, he's never been asked that question from any other woman and that gave him freedom to say, "Hmm. What is it...what do I want?" And his respo-...you know what his response to her was? "Let me think about it."
He hadn't even fully considered what he wants and I guarantee you, most guys haven't really considered what it is that they want.
In fact, most people haven't. Most people are living their lives by the default patterns of their behavior...the default patterns of their old thinking.
So he took off and they said, "Okay. Well, let's reconvene in a couple days. We'll have a conversation."
He called her back in a couple days and had been thinking about the vision she was painting: the great sex that she described, the adventures, the support, the encouragement to be the best versions of themselves that they can be. And that started to sound pretty good to him.
See, they had never had a conversation about whether they were going to be exclusive or not, so that was just his default pattern. He was in a pattern of dating.
And he said, "You know what? That sounds pretty good to me. I'm willing to explore this if you're willing to take it slow. And I will stop dating other people and...and just invest in you."
And she said, "Okay. Let's do that."
That was over four months ago. I just talked to him last night. They just got back from a week-long vacation in Northern California, where they had a blast.
And now this g-...I've known this guy for years and he hasn't had a monogamous relationship since...for the entire time that I've known him. And I guarantee you, no woman has ever approached him the way that this woman did.
And here's what's key about this, is that when you tell him, "Look. Here is the vision for what I want."
It's such an attractive...one of the most powerful four-letter words you can speak is the word 'want.' 'W.A.N.T.' Because you're giving the blueprint for your man to deliver you happiness. You see? You're telling him, "This is what I want. Can you deliver it?"
And you know what? If you can't, that's cool, because I'm sure someone else will. Ding ding ding, competition, right?
He's like, "I don't want anyone else to deliver that to you."
So it automatically, subconsciously, calls a man to the carpet and say, "Are you going to step up and be this man for me?"
And the coolest part about that is you give him freedom to be honest and, if he's not the guy to step up, you're letting it...you're...you're giving him permission to fall away from your life so that you can attract the man that you want in your life.
A very, very powerful strategy. The Man Scan.
Come from love abundance, pre-frame the conversation, ultimately, creating an environment that...so that you have his attention, his presence, and you give him permission to be honest.
Step number three, paint the vision for what it is that you want and then give him permission to be honest in sharing what it is that he really wants. And I promise you, the relationship will either progress, which is what you want, or you'll be clear about where he's at in the relationship and you can choose to let him fall away from your life so that you can attract what it is that you like.
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So, this is Matt Boggs. I'll talk to you soon.