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42.
The age of 3½ is not without its charm. One of the
more amusing aspects of this age is the child’s often vivid
imagination, expressed most strikingly in his enjoyment of
imaginary companions. Though some people have felt that
only the lonely play with imaginary playmates, our research
makes it very evident that it is often the highly superior
and imaginative child who invents these creatures. They are
very real to him, very important, and, we can assure you,
quite harmless. Even though it may be annoying to have to
lay a place at dinner or keep an extra seat in the family
automobile for his ‘friend’ who exists only in your child’s
imagination, it is probably well worthwhile.
43.
Rosalyn’s parents did everything possible to avoid
favoring one child over the others, and this resulted in
her feelings being hurt. One year Rosalyn asked her
mother to prepare a special treat for her birthday: the
honey cake that Rosalyn had always loved.
Her mother said she couldn’t. If she made a honey cake
for Rosalyn, she’d have to make cakes for Rosalyn’s
two sisters, and she didn’t have time to make three cakes.
In the end, her mother did give Rosalyn a honey cake
on her birthday ― a really small one, because she
split the batter for one cake into three parts, to treat
her daughters equally.
Upon receiving the cake, Rosalyn became disappointed.
It was, after all, her birthday; couldn’t she be singled
out on one day of the year? A parent’s admirable
efforts not to play favorites can mean that no child gets
the whole cake of parental love.
44.
How can you create closeness when the two of you are
hundreds of miles apart? How can you make the person you
are talking to on the phone feel special when you cannot pat
their back or give them a little hug? The answer is simple.
Just use your caller’s name far more often than you would
in person. In fact, shower your conversations with his or her
name. Saying a person’s name too often in face-to-face
conversation sounds manipulative. However, on the phone
the effect is dramatically different. If you heard someone say
your name, even if you were being pushed around in a big
noisy crowd, you would pay attention and listen.
