(Jan 29th. 2012) Today I found the following article by accident on an internet site.I felt they were very reasonable ideas/suggestions/pieces of advice.So I want to post it here.
What do you think about this? Of course most of us already know it very well, that doing is different from knowing.So I feel that I should especially try to be more carefully when listening to my family members`s way of speaking, more so than usual.Are you a person who carefully listens to other people's way of speaking?
——-[ Ten Steps to Effective Listening ](효과적인 듣기 10단계)————-
1)Face the speaker and maintain eye contact.
2)Be attentive yet relaxed.
3)Keep an open mind.
4)Listen to the words and try to picture what the speaker is saying.
5)Don’t interrupt and don’t impose your “solutions.”
6)Wait for the speaker to pause to ask clarifying questions.
7)Ask questions only to ensure understanding of something that has been said (avoiding questions that disrupt the speaker’s train of thought).
8)Try to feel what the speaker is feeling.
9)Give the speaker regular feedback, e.g., summarize, reflect feelings, or simply say “uh huh.”
10)Pay attention to what isn’t said — to feelings, facial expressions, gestures, posture, and other nonverbal cues.
Listening is a precious gift — the gift of time. It helps build relationships, solve problems, ensure understanding, resolve conflicts, and improve accuracy. At work, effective listening means fewer errors and less wasted time. At home, it helps develop resourceful, self-reliant kids who can solve their own problems. Listening builds friendships and careers. It saves money and marriages.
(2012.1.29) (효과적인 듣기 10단계) 오늘 우연히 인터넷에서 아래 글을 읽게 되었다. 무척 일리가 있는 말이라고 느껴서 여기에 한번 적어 보기로 한다. 여러분은 어떻게 생각하세요? 물론 대부분의 사람들이 모두 잘 알고 있을 테지만, 문제는 알고 있는 것을 행동에 옮기는 것이 쉽지 않다는 데 있다. 그래서 나는 평소에 내 가족의 말에 주의를 기울여 듣는 것을 먼저 행동에 옮겨야겠다고 느낀다. 여러분은 다를 사람들의 말에 귀를 잘 기울여 들으시는 편인가요? Korean Audio~> http://audioboo.fm/boos/643887-200129-lorean-2012-1-29-ten-steps-to-effective-listening-10.mp3